Why do you want to be in a relationship?

… asked my friend after I confided in him that although I feel satisfied with my life at the moment, it’s not fulfilling because I don’t have a someone.

I realized I never really meditated on his question. So I decided to do the 5 WHYs.

WHY is it important to me to be in a relationship?

I want to be touched and made love to and held tightly as I fall asleep, and kissed all over as my eyes awake.

WHY is it important to be touched?

I want to build intimacy with someone, both physical and emotional. I want to share special moments with the someone, as well as life’s banalities and little annoyances.

WHY is intimacy important?

I want to build something with someone, a project, a human, a space, the magic happens when you do it together.

WHY is it important to build something with someone?

I want to be exposed, and work through my deepest wounds when that figure of attachment, that a partner embodies, holds up a mirror to my face.

WHY is it important to be exposed?